Graduate Stories: “I’ve mostly struggled with comparing myself to others”

Age: 21
Have you graduated yet?: Yes
What city do you live in?: Manchester
Where do you live?: With a partner
What’s your current working situation?: Full-time job

What do you think you’ve struggled with the most after leaving education?

I’ve mostly struggled with comparing myself to others who have took their ‘first step’ into a career. When I left uni all my friends had the next step planned, whereas I had no idea what I wanted to do as I failed to get into a graduate scheme. I took the first and only job that gave me an offer, which was in customer service. Although it was good pay, my life and degree felt meaningless as uni had prepared me for only ‘high careers’ that were related to my degree and anything less I felt was unspoken about.

What do you wish you’d known or had done before leaving university?

How to adapt to life after university, especially if you live back at home. I really struggled with the first two months after completing the course because I was back at home with less freedom, distant from my friends but most of all I wasn’t constantly busy. I would love to see universities raise awareness of switch from 3rd year which is a constant stress between coursework, exams and dissertations to then the ‘real world’ which may have stressors but is usually not as intense.

Do you think there’s enough resources out there for young people making the transition from education to adult life?

I don’t think there’s enough resources. The current resources focus on perfecting your CV and interview skills to get a job, or how to organise your finances for renting/bills which is definitely essential. But, at least at my university, there weren’t any resources on the mental transition from education to adult life.

Thank you to whoever shared this really honest account of graduate life!

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This Post Has 10 Comments

  1. Anna

    Completely agree, there aren’t nearly enough resources for after school for proper adjustment. Maybe with posts like yours there will be more awareness on the importance of this!

    1. Maddie

      Thank you – I really hope so, I’d love to make a difference in this area!

  2. itsjustjessie12

    I can really relate to this, I graduated recently (well, September 2019 but it doesn’t feel so far away) and adjusting from University life to normal working life was so hard and I really felt like there were minimal resources to help you through!

    1. Maddie

      I’m sorry you’ve felt that way too! It is scary how little support there is that is readily available to graduates!

  3. Lisa Alioto

    As a career coach, this information is good to know. It helps to know where young adults are coming from, their stressors, and what they need. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Maddie

      I’m glad it can help you ☺️


    I have also recently graduated from college and I can feel every word you say. But, the sad part is that not mamy people acknowledge this fact.

    1. Maddie

      It really is a shame that it’s not openly spoken about or dealt with!

    1. Maddie

      Thank you ☺️

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